WAHM & Balancing Your Day

Posted by Vulnadia on Feb 01, 2011 at 05:09 PM I'm going nuts it seems as of late! I thought once the babies went to school I would have more time, and I do...but it seems that I also have to spend that time volunteering at school X's three during the day as well as try and work all of my work at home jobs & maintain my nonprofit (which requires not only business aspects but also creative being that I also write and produce productions for the theater!!!) So I feel like I'm losing my mind...I can schedule myself to work this or that job, but then it gets interrupted by the intermittant school responsibility (storytime,snackdays,field trip chaperoning (yes I have to go because of one of my kids being high-maintenance due to sensory integration disorder) then there is everyday household needs that must be met & carpool to run on top of it to 2 different schools!!!! Add in dr appointments & the occasional meeting and there seems like there isnt much time for anything anymore!!!! Lately, husband is getting bitchy over my working at night, after the kids are in bed and dinner is done & put away...sure I stay up late, but I am also bringing in $100 minimum for that extra few hours I stay up, too-we're talking 2-3 hours tops for the money that's not too shabby!) But he feels like if I am on the computer then I am not doing anything even if most of my files & 2 of my paying jobs are computer-related...I write & I do data processing for a phone company...to be cost-effective I must do the phone company work in bulk during non-office hours to pull in the big$$$ and he knows these things, too, but he still treats it as if I'm wasting time or doing something that just isnt important! What am I to do? I can't add enough hours in my day it seems and husband isn't doing much if anything to help support me in all of this!!!! I don't have room or the $$ for a nanny or au pair...but I do have a 16 yr old (but he is a competition fencer with plans for a career of coaching after college) & he helps as much as he can around the house & with his younger sibs (the age difference is about 11 years between them) but his schedule is also hectic!!! it will sort of resolve itself in a way once he gets his license but it will also open another can of worms!!!( driving, girlfriend &accountability sure i trust him to a point but I also trust & expect him to act his age & do teen things such as test limits etc) its frustrating to be expected to bring in the $$$ (which I dont mind) & perform creatively (I must script as part of my nonprofit which isnt always something that just rolls out of the brain on cue!!!) when husband doesnt find my jobs as legitimate or worthy of devoting time to as his (being that isnt in the home) its one of those situations where he thinks I sit here & drink martini's & eat bonbons & watch soaps all day (to be facetious) instead of juggling everything!!! i'm also the one who must be on call 24/7 with the trio at night--its scary because last week while the kids were home sick nothing got done-try 3 sick 4yr olds all needing a lap because they felt horrible... then they fight for attention & for space & each are deserving & need the love & care but must share on top of the usual responsibilities-but i wasnt sleeping trying to get everything in & when i did sleep it was soo hard I couldnt keep that one eye open & didnt hear one of the kids screaming when they got sick...husband did & took care of it but he had a hard time waking me (i felt terrible about it but sometimes you just cant wake up) but I did it somehow! we do try & do things together on friday nights if possible, but fencing season is having us divy up competition responsibilities too (trips drive time & entry fees & equipment acquisition) & its hard!!!!