There's Something About Sister...I Just Don't Know What

Posted by Vulnadia on Jan 28, 2010 at 08:17 AM So, after right at 4 months of being gone, my baby sister has finally resurfaced. Verifiably, it is definately HER. I've been wondering since she abruptly stopped calling that last weekend in September if she was even breathing still. Her friends all wrote asking WHERE IS SHE...I wrote some of her friends asking if they had talked to her or seen her at all... Nobody and I mean NOBODY had seen nor heard from her in a LONG time, not since the last week in September actually. For Thanksgiving I got a weird email at one of my work email's using an old log-in that I know hadn't been active in almost a year. It coincided with one of those "Have you seen" emails that were sent and was fishier than a fish market....it was very stand-offish and just weird content-wise. I didn't even know if it was really her...it didn't sound like her... At Christmastime, I texted her at the only number I had for her to try and get some confirmation that she was still really out there... I got return texts, like I had gotten a return generic email...NOTHING telling me where she had been for the past months...nothing with any new info...just a PO box assuming that I would send her a copy of the Christmas picture that I had just had taken with her kids and mine in it... She refused to talk, she refused to answer the phone that day, just those generic texts & emails... Til yesterday...I got a call...I didn't get to the phone in all the chaos of my day (longer story) so there is this message... It's her...it really is her. As if nothing has been different, as if she hadn't been AWOL for soo very long. She missed Halloween. She missed Thanksgiving. She didn't EVEN try calling or showing up for Christmas. Her children haven't seen her since early September. They haven't heard from her at all. There wasn't even anything for Christmas from her...A "Merry Christmas" would have made all the difference in the world to them...well at least 2 of them anyways...the ones old enough to understand and wonder where Mom is and all... So now she is back wanting to talk to us. I am finding it super hard to answer her, super hard to pick up that phone and call yet another new number. I want to know that she is okay, but at the same time I'm mad. She actually dared write a friend of hers and tell them that I was mad at her for being "Poor." Heck, I didn't know she was even still breathing much less her financial issues!!! But I am truly mad...mad over how she has been totally ignoring her kids and mad because of all the loose ends she leaves with them. So now I've given my Daddy a head's up...to expect her to finally contact him...and possibly the children. But I don't know about this. I don't know what the kids will think, what they wonder and worse yet what has really been going on with Sister. I just don't know how to take this, I don't. I mean, it's not me that I'm worried about, it's her children really. to make a long story short, the kids have lived with my daddy for right at 4 1/2 years now- the older 2 remember life before with her & dont want that again & are afraid of going back but the eldest is almost 12 & really needs a mom (which she knows she cant really have but it still hurts) i'm worried about that huge gap of time-& that may be the case but i cannot prove it (what you refer to basically) the eldest daughter speaks of her like she is away on some long trip or something...& then she just cries & wont talk about it anymore i dont know if i should be glad for confirmation that she is still breathing or if its okay to be mad at the whole of it really