Temper Tantrums or Communication Gap?

Posted by Vulnadia on Mar 01, 2010 at 12:33 PM I saw this on the main thread & thought we might like to hear how we all handle these situations. "What is the best way to handle a toddler temper tantrum? You know the ones where they cry and throw themselves down" That was the original question. What is your answer to it? Personally, I believe/have found that these are caused by the toddler emotion-ruled head!!! Yep, I actually think that temper tantrums originate from a toddler's inability to consistently communicate before their temper/emotions take over. That being said, there are ways to combat this issue! Some swear by signing which can, if taught early enough, help bridge that gap if a child finds it 2nd nature. Also, as a parent, if you watch for your child to have problems & head it off before it escalates you can help stave off the temper tantrum! Most stem from wants/needs that a child has that they cannot effectively communicate in time for a parent to fullfill. If you keep a watchful eye out during this phase, you will find that you can see frustration seeping in and find a solution BEFORE a child escalates into a full out tantrum. Communication is key here on both sides (parent & child). I haven't had too many tantrums with mine and they are almost four now, so I know it can be done!!! What do you think? What is your take on the issue?